The other day, I was sitting in my office and made myself a cup of coffee. It's a daily ritual for me, one that I really enjoy—fresh coffee percolating through the machine, the aroma filling the office. I had an appointment in a couple of hours, so I was dressed for that. I very gingerly picked up my cup of coffee and sat down. As I leaned forward to take my first sip, I held the cup away from me so that nothing would spill on my white shirt. The next day while sitting at home enjoying a cup of coffee, I realized that I hadn't gone to any of the extra pains that I had taken the previous day in drinking my coffee. I just sat there in my home clothes, not really concerned whether or not I spilled anything on myself—I just enjoyed the coffee!
As I reflected on these two scenarios, I realized that intent was at the very center—to be very careful on the one hand, and not being bothered by it on the other hand. Without intent to be careful or to do something, we are very much like people without a rudder. We just let the wind take us where we want; it really doesn't matter. Yet, life is not lived that way. Life is lived with intentionality—taking the oars in our hand and steering our course, not letting ourselves be carried around by the vagaries of wind or weather.